Part One: How To Earn Maximum Returns On Your Liquid Assets
Section One ~ The Code Of Conviviality
I think I am a pretty good host. I think my friends are also pretty good hosts. However, we could all do better. I have been known to drink a bit too much before guests arrive and then half-ass a hosting gig until I do a slow fall into the coffee table. I want to be a fabulous host and I am hoping this book, though decidedly intended for the swinging bachelor, will help me achieve maximum host-ness.
After reading the first section of the book, it is my understanding that being a great host isn’t about how much booze and food you can get into your guests, but rather how good the booze and food is. Essentially, author Thomas Mario suggests quality over quantity.
Mario also proposed that the mixing of guests is as vital to a party as the mixing of potables, each can be a science. As a host, it’s up to you to mix a blend of people that will make for a comfortable atmosphere. Just because somebody mixes with you, doesn’t mean they will mix with others. It’s up to you to determine the recipe.
Another suggestion, and you must keep in mind this book came out in pre-Internet 1971, is to phone and invite each person on your list. I wonder if Mario would be accepting of a Facebook event page in this day and age? I like to think he would, as it’s my preferred method. But, I will follow the book, so when it comes time to plan parties, I shall be calling.
One of the most important elements is the host must be relaxed. Guests can’t loosen up and enjoy themselves if the host is running about preparing. This is one of my downfalls. There have been times when I spend a lot of the party in the kitchen. Mario wants me to prepare as much in advance as possible, right down to loading up the coffee maker so that I just have to hit “go” when we need coffee. I get it.
When guests arrive, Mario wants me to serve drinks within seconds and food within minutes. I do this often. I offer a drink while taking coats. As Mario would see it, I am an “active host” and not a “passive host.” The latter would line up bottles on a counter and tell guests to serve themselves. Another thing about being an “active host” is that I watch glasses. I notice when people are empty and I offer to refresh.
Probably the main thing to remember while hosting, is that you are not doing it so they feel obliged to host you, you are hosting to “achieve fun and friendship.”
